Mangal Dosh in Kundali and Marriage…!
There are n-number of beliefs about Mangal Dosha in society…!
One of the Statement spreading in people and current
astrologers is A Mangalik person can marry a Person with a strong Shani or Rahu
in the Kundali. The others Strong Shani or Rahu will neutralize the Mangalik
Dosha of the Married Partner…!
Is it true? Does this statement have any value or logical
standings in the Shastra? Or rather the truth is what our elder astrologers and
Guru’s were saying that a Mangalik person must marry another Mangalik Person
only….!
Let’s understand the Mangali Dosha first. In the Lagna
Kundali, if Mangal is placed in the 1st, 4th, 7th,
8th or in the 12th Houses, we say that the Kundali is
Mangalik or Mangalik Dosha is applicable for the concerned person.
Mangal sitting in the Lagna or 1st House aspects
directly the 7th House of Spouse, hence 1st House is included
in this Dosha. From 4th House, again Mangal gives his 4th
Drishti to the Saptama Sthana of Marriage in Kundali. In the 7th
House Mangal sit’s himself in the Saptama Sthana. From 8th House it
aspects the House of Family, the 2nd House of Kundali and hence
spoils family life, from the 12th House again it aspects the 7th
House with his 8th Aspect.
So in all cases Mangal’s Aspect on Saptama Sthana, Kutumba
Sthana and His own position in 7th House denotes Mangalik Dosha
applicable for the concerned person.
Mangal is a Fiery Graha with tremendous work force and
energy. The way I am writing this article or you reading this, is just happening because Mangal is the Very
form of Energy with which we are doing our day to day work or other massive
tasks.
When a person is Mangalik, the heat of Mangal get’s directly
associated with the 7th House or the Spouse or Partner. The Target
of such person’s heat, energy, aggression and at times abuse becomes the Non
Mangalik Person. If the spouse is also a Mangalik person, the energies get’s
balanced and the life becomes a happy ride.
Mangal is a Malefic Graha or Paap Graha, hence People say
that other Malefic Graha like Shani, Rahu in Mangal’s position (1,4,7,8,12
houses)balance the Mangalik Dosha.
I always recommend people not to marry a Mangalik Person.
Only Mangalik person can marry a person with Mangal Dosha. Then why some
Astrologers guide people to marry Mangalik People as they have Shani or Rahu in
their own Kundalis??? The reason is that, Shastra is here to help people and make their
life easy. These Astrologers does this move out of their emotions and
compassion for the Mangalik Person.
I have myself seen girls aged more than 40, with grey white
hairs, no charm, no glow, no radiance or hope on face, no life in eyes…? The
condition of unmarried girls and boys in Southern India and Northern India is
an alarming Situation. That’s the reason the Astrologer’s are giving an excuse
of a Strong Shani or Rahu or any other Malefic or Paap Graha to counter the
Mangalik Dosha wrong effects.
The logic is humanity and welfare of the mankind. But does
that really happen? Is it ok to marry a Mangalik person if you don’t have
Mangal Dosha in your Kundali? Will your strong Shani or Rahu counter his/her
Mangal Dosha and will you live happily ever after….!
The Answer is a Big NO…! Yes by Humanitarian angle it seems
good that due to the Astrologers guidance and logic of Strong Shani, Rahu…,
this person marries the Mangalik person. The Astrologer arranged a Marriage and
two persons and in turn two families got together with this alliance…!
What happens in such case? One Mangalik marries other Non
Mangalik or rather a Person with Strong Shani or Rahu etc…?
Naturally the Non Mangali person suffers to the max, his
life becomes worse than hell and in turn the Mangalik person also suffers and
finally the marriage get’s over with a Divorce in fortunate cases. In
Unfortunate circumstances, the separation can happen due to death as well.
I have seen so many Kundali’s of Couples where one partner
is Mangalik and other is Non Mangalik or Rather with Strong Shani or Rahu…, so
to say…! The heat, energy, aggression, madness, passion, constant bickering,
nagging, adamant and abusive nature of the Mangalik Person ruins the life of the
Non Mangalik Person. Finally it’s bitter and bad marriage and separation is
inevitable…!
I should share one of my experiences of such couple….; Here
The Boy was non Mangalik and were working in Film Line in Mumbai as a budding
director for Movies. The Girl, a budding Editor with Mangal Dosha. There was a
gap of around 8 years in their age; naturally the Boy was older than the Girl.
They fall in Love, The Girls family was Very affluent and
her Father was a Class 1 officer with Indian Government. Initially the family
opposed, but looking at the Girls Adamant nature and her emotional outburst,
the family gave permission for the Marriage.
They rented a new apartment in Mumbai suburbs and started
their new life together, just two of them…! Soon the Boy finished one of his
Film Assignment as a Chief A.D., Got few Lakh of Rupees and enjoyed for several
months. The Girl was working too and was having moderate savings from her
salary. After few months, the boy was not having any film project in his hands
and the girl started using her savings to run the House. Slowly, slowly their
condition starts deteriorating and they were running short of money to even pay
their House Rent.
One fine day they decided to move to the Girls Father’s
government quarter, which was a huge 3 BHK Flat, as her father was transferred
to some different Location in India. The Father retained his quarters by giving
the reason of his Married Girl.
They stayed there for nearly 1 year. The boy was still
unemployed and travelled to his native place in U.P for couple of months 2 -3
times in that phase. The Girl was moving the ladder in her corporate career,
the boy was frustrated as he had to send money to his parents to, and he was
helpless…!
Soon the Girl started going on office parties, started
drinking alcohol and even flirting with other male partners. The quarrels
reached a high and the boy went to his Native Place. After 8 months of physical
separation and trying couple of other partners, this girl realized her mistake
and thought of reuniting with the Husband in his U.P Village. She went there,
stayed for couple of weeks and returned with a decision of getting separated permanently
from the Husband, as he was almost finished financially and his parents were on
death bed.
She comes back to Mumbai and asks for a divorce, as she is
happy living alone without any control, answerability to anyone. The Boy was a
Matured person, told her to live life the way she wants, but he will not give
her the desired Divorce.
This is a typical example of Mangal and Shani person. The
Mangalik Girl wants to get separated and settle in America with her new Friend.
Mangal wants immediate action. The Boy who was having Strong Shani was ready to
wait till she realizes her mistake.
They stayed together for say total 18 months, and then next
10 years they were living separately without divorce. The Girl did everything,
and now wants to marry someone else. Wants to settle in United States. The Boy
says, if you go to America, I will file a police complaint with the Local
police and immigration cell and you will be deported back to me only…!
One single mistake in life, and nearly 12 long years of
worse married life…!
Finally with lot of Tamasha, Police Complaints and
Mudslinging on each other they got legally separated after 12 years of a very
Ugly Marriage.
Is this the way one wants to be in marriage? Certainly am
sure, The Answer is a NO.
Mangalik Person when married to other Person, there are very
rare examples of happy married life.
In above example you will say that the boy was unemployed,
hence they got separated..! The question is not unemployment, the Girl wanted
divorce after 2 years of marriage, the boy waited for her to make her realize the
mistake…? Mangal and Shani total contradiction to each other. Shani is delay
and denials…! It worked and took 12 long years for them to separate…! The Boy
was fortunate that he didn’t got killed or died, as Guru was having a Drishti
on the Girls Saptama Sthana.
Hence if you are not getting a Mangalik partner, if you are
having a Mangal Dosha, please don’t go ahead and marry some Non-Mangalik…! It
is not going to work for both of you people. My sincere advice to young people
who are in Love and don’t take Astrology seriously, please do the match making,
please check the Mangal Dosha? How can you ruin life of a person to whom you
have loved the most…! If you really Love someone and are having Mangal Dosha in
your Kundali, don’t marry the Non Mangalik partner.
People are crying in their late 50’s too with this Heat of Mangal
Dosha, both married and unmarried too…!
If you are not getting a compatible match, don’t get desperate
and marry someone with wrong combination. Wait, marriage is not the only aspect
of life which gives happiness. Shift your focus, work hard and live life with
happiness and bliss. Make your Mind strong and divert all your energies to some
constructive causes…!
Precaution is better than cure…! Don’t do mistake at the
first place, then you don’t have to do remedial measures to salvage a bad
marriage…!
Checking Kundalis beforehand is a good option. If we see
that you are Mangalik, you better search a Mangalik Person. If you know that
you are not Mangalik, you should marry only Non Mangalik People.
There are remedies for each and every dosha in Shastra, but
those can’t change your destiny…! You can have an umbrella when it’s raining,
you can’t stop the Raining…!
If you have separation in your Kundali, instead of Death,
Divorce can be the reason by doing the remedial measures, but you cannot avoid
separation.
The programming will be complete in any case…! So you just need
to be alert and know what’s programmed for you in the Kundali or rather in
Life..!
|| Shubham Bhavatu ||
Dilip Raut
